The Internet Is Kind of a Predatory Cesspit Now

(stephendiehl.com)

263 points | by ibobev 1 hour ago

57 comments

  • Biologist123 1 hour ago
    > People increasingly behave like addicts because addiction is the business model.

    I sense my internet addiction got a lot worse in recent years. I don’t use social media, but I consume news, blogs and newsletters - and comment threads - voraciously.

    I think the addiction began as soon as I started to work at a desk behind a computer which had internet access - 20+ years ago. Like putting an alcoholic to work behind a bar and thinking he’d restrain himself.

    It seems to have worsened in recent years. I’d like out, but the dealers are on every corner.

    • asdfman123 19 minutes ago
      If you're interested in what helped me overcome the worst aspects of my internet addiction, I learned to reframe it.

      I wasn't overcome with addiction, but I was CHOOSING to take a break. There are good reasons to read the news, there are good reasons to take breaks. End the war against yourself and take more wholesome breaks, so your subconscious doesn't take over and force them. It may involve forcing yourself to be more realistic about what you can do in a given time period, but that's a good thing ultimately.

      I know it sounds like a minor change but the whole game is putting your life back in your own control. When you find yourself binging, say "I am choosing to do this," even if you don't immediately log off. Just observe your own choices as a first step.

      Another tip: when you're craving a hit of the internet, ask yourself "can I wait 5 minutes before checking my phone?" If you can't, no big deal. But if you do this enough time you build up the self discipline muscle.

    • TFNA 54 minutes ago
      Internet addiction in the early millennium wasn't so destructive, because so much internet content was somehow related to quality interaction with other people. You could meet cool new people (even occasionally IRL friends) from forums and blogs, and they were a hub for discussion for real-life communities like music-band fandom or travel subcultures.

      Besides the deleterious nature of engagement-maximizing social media today, I think another aspect of the problem is that there is less connection to real-life socializing simply because that has collapsed in so many countries.

      • elmomle 44 minutes ago
        This is a big part of it for me. The old Internet was full of individuals sharing deep passion--whether on a personal website or on a forum. There was a sense of connecting to another human being.

        This is the only forum-style site I regularly interact with, and I must admit that I rarely try to remember another username here. The effect is that I interact with ideas, not people. And there is some deep connection between behaviors I might label as addiction and a felt sense of isolation.

        • spicyjpeg 32 minutes ago
          The internet is still full of individuals sharing deep passion for all sorts of things, but only within the walls of invite-only communities you have to go out of your way to find (Discord servers, private forums) and/or make a financial commitment towards (Patreon).

          Or at least it was, before LLM "enthusiasts" started leaking into these otherwise hermetic communities and overrunning formerly safe spaces with mass-produced low-effort content nobody wants to see, particularly when anyone else could prompt the exact same thing into existence.

          • sodapopcan 26 minutes ago
            For me the difference today is that most people sharing their passions are now doing for The Algorithm. It's a far cry from the scrappy days of the early web where people just posted stuff because they thought it was cool. I'm not saying their passion is any less, more just that is so much noise. People are now "creators" and are pressured to constantly create.
      • dilyevsky 41 minutes ago
        Even 25 years ago being “too online” - back then it was icq, livejournal, and forums - was already destructive as hell and always led to some pretty cringe outcomes. At least these days some people make a career out of it, back then it was purely negative
        • TFNA 32 minutes ago
          It wasn't purely negative for everyone. I still maintain ties with several people I hung out with on an IRC channel in the 2000s, and a couple of fellow heavy commenters on one blog in the same decade. Granted, this was aided by the fact that we were all in Europe and all traveled regularly, so we could do the IRL interaction that solidifies friendships.

          Today, if one is heavily online, many platforms no longer offer a space where one can tell a fellow user, "I'll be in your town soon, let's meet up", or even if it does, the general culture has changed away from that.

      • efdee 21 minutes ago
        Sorry, but teenage me, growing up late 90s, wildly disagrees with this statement.

        It's always been addictive and destructive. I was staying up past 3am to talk to my American friends, knowing I'd have to get up at 7am to get to school.

        Painting the past with such a rose brush does not help anyone.

        • queenkjuul 18 minutes ago
          I was staying up till 3 am listening to my iPod and reading books without internet then going to school at 7

          I do think the internet was less bad back then (but still bad) and i also think sometimes teenagers just be teenagers

          • efdee 4 minutes ago
            You kids and your iPods. ;-)
      • tacostakohashi 22 minutes ago
        Yep... back then, the internet was a way people would discuss and organize their real world interests and activities, like clubs and usergroups would organize their next meeting... and then meet, off the internet.

        Now, it's all just online drivel that never turns into anything else.

      • anal_reactor 48 minutes ago
        > You could meet cool new people

        My first date was a guy with fake photos. Ten dates later I settled for a married guy cheating on his wife. He eventually divorced but then I left him.

        • abixb 26 minutes ago
          Username checks out. /s
    • KronisLV 7 minutes ago
      > I’d like out, but the dealers are on every corner.

      Since the industry stops for noone (and you kinda have to keep learning in software dev) and due to the state of the economy it feels like one big rat race to me, I don't foresee that sort of outcome for myself.

      I can easily imagine how lazing in the sun in Italy or someplace like that (if the hot summers nowadays don't fuck that up), going swimming and eating healthy food with not a care in the world would surely help one get rid of the dopamine addiction, getting there being the hard part.

      The fast paced modern lifestyle and being always online can feel a tad anxiety inducing and unnatural.

    • akudha 16 minutes ago
      The most dangerous part of this addiction is that it doesn't feel like addiction. Suppose we spend 4 hours in an afternoon consuming random content - starting somewhere on a Google search, landing on Wikipedia, end up reading dozens of articles on various topics in that 4 hours. Unlike alcohol or drugs, this is knowledge addiction - afterall, we learned about a bunch of things in those 4 hours, didn't we? We didn't spend any money (well, other than the laptop, electricity and internet bills), we didn't harass anyone (like alcoholics sometimes do) etc. Heck, we didn't even "waste" time like we think we do, when we play video games. So it feels somewhat better.

      But, all that we learned in those 4 hours - is it really that useful? Some of it might be, lets say an hour of it. What about the other three? That could have been spent on something healthier - having fun with friends, play sports, or even just sleeping!

      I understand the irony of typing this, but I too am in the same boat - consuming things voraciously, most of which is just useless knowledge, at the cost of relationships, health etc.

    • dexwiz 1 hour ago
      Pandemic really ramped it up. Also screen addiction has gone mainstream. In front of a screen 12+ hours a day 20 years ago? Total nerd. Now? Standard behavior.
      • asdfman123 15 minutes ago
        It's so weird. I used to consider myself a fringe internet addict in the 2000s but now everyone is like me.

        Like many of you, I deal with stuff like depression, anxiety, ADHD. Back in the 2000s it felt like I was the only weirdo out there. Now I cringe writing that out because it feels like everyone is like that now.

        • sefrost 3 minutes ago
          Everybody isn't like that. "The algorithm" might have made you think everybody is like that though.
          • asdfman123 1 minute ago
            Meet a lot of Gen Zers. Far too many of them are.
      • queenkjuul 15 minutes ago
        I started to notice a shift in how the recommendation algorithms worked probably around 2018-2019 and then the pandemic just took it to nuclear levels against the entire population
    • sefrost 29 minutes ago
      > Like putting an alcoholic to work behind a bar and thinking he’d restrain himself.

      I've been thinking about this recently. The tools we use as desk workers are only ever one step away from endless streams of addictive content. And in many cases the software we use to do our jobs are adopting dark patterns similar to those which have been successful in consumer apps.

      Often the advice is to opt out of the system. I make mobile apps, I can't simply drop out and use a dumb phone (unless I get a new career). My workplace is essentially inside the addictive environment. I have to keep my knowledge up to date and be on top of app/design trends to be successful in my job. This used to feel rewarding to me, but increasingly it doesn't.

      I used to be able to go to Twitter and read+learn+be inspired a lot about web development for example, but now it's almost entirely short form video content. And I fall for it every time. And I actively tried to avoid this from happening, I barely use YouTube and I've never used TikTok.

      My Dad was a carpenter and it's as if his day-to-day tools were cigarettes or something. It's hard/impossible to avoid this environment when we are increasingly working in it.

    • Aurornis 57 minutes ago
      > I think the addiction began as soon as I started to work at a desk behind a computer which had internet access

      Interestingly, my digital consumption for idle entertainment dropped when I started working full time. I didn’t want to be in front of a screen when work was done.

      My screen exposure for fun is primarily this site (where I spend too much time), and games where my friends and I treat the time as a multi-way group call with long distance friends.

      I do know a lot of people who followed the exact course you describe: They watch screens at work and had periods where it was okay to spend a lot of time on social media or social news sites (Hacker News, Reddit, Slashdot, Digg, depending on the era). Checking those sites all day long became a habit for them and filled all idle time. Whenever they felt uncomfortable or bored, visiting a site would fix it.

      Some of them broke out of it when they switched to workplaces where it wasn’t acceptable to do non-work things during the day. This is almost inconceivable for a lot of tech workers who have had a lot of freedom to date, but it’s normal in some industries. As an example, I have friends who work in areas where security concerns are so high that they check their phones into lockers before entering their work areas. Others worked at companies who did over-reaching analysis of computer use. Many just moved to companies with packed open office spaces where it would be obvious to everyone around if you were on Reddit or looking at your phone instead of the computer for an excessive amount all day.

      What is interesting is that this seems to induce a split: Some people get broken of their Internet use habits this way and continue not using those sites outside of work. Others seem to have a rebound where they leave work and start gorging on Reddit or TikTok or their other preferred sites.

    • HSO 3 minutes ago
      SelfControl app with restrictive whitelist

      Done

    • KellyCriterion 53 minutes ago
      Im with you! The most times Im late for "some things on a project" at work is, because, I wasted time reading through dozens of feeds/news/comments on "too many" days so I got somehow a "delay" ;-)

      Esp. comments: Actually, I ready mostly those because usually they have more information or context etc.than the article itself. (BTW: thats the reason why Im here on HN :-)

    • paxys 7 minutes ago
      > I don’t use social media

      You are using social media right now.

    • alightsoul 1 hour ago
      And even worse, if you're addicted to soda, it is cheaper than bottled water, what if you don't have tap water?
    • gizajob 37 minutes ago
      The dealer is in your pocket.
    • altmanaltman 55 minutes ago
      Do you ever wonder, if you were born in a different era, like 1901, and still had the base drives behind this addiction, how would it channel itself? Like what would you replace the internet with in those days
      • yoyohello13 47 minutes ago
        If my history reading is any indication the answer is ‘getting drunk at the pub’
      • paxys 6 minutes ago
        Opium
    • Haga 38 minutes ago
      [dead]
  • simonebrunozzi 15 minutes ago
    Nice article by Stephen Diehl - I really liked his latest on crypto.

    I noticed that in certain sections there seems to be a heavy use of LLM-assisted writing, such as this one:

    > The platforms did not invent fear, greed, loneliness, or status anxiety. They industrialised their extraction. Their recommendation systems are vast reinforcement-learning loops that continuously experiment on human weakness. Each objective is a moving composite of high-dimensional signals for attention, retention, and conversion, dispersed across models, metrics, tests, and feedback systems. The subject cannot see the experiment. The operator cannot fully explain it. The regulator can barely comprehend it. The loop knows only that one stimulus keeps a person scrolling while another lets them leave. Calm accuracy loses. Threat, transgression, humiliation, and impossible promises win. The resulting social damage appears nowhere in the objective function. It arrives as an externality.

    Not sure what you think of it.

    In my view, his ideas are nice and interesting, and I would rather read less verbose, less "perfect" blog posts, and reduce or remove the use of LLMs.

    • maqp 5 minutes ago
      Same. Every time I see LLM has contributed to the work I feel it greatly dilutes it. I'll push through if the topic is important and there's good points. But e.g. on YT, a sloppy script that barely stands on its own becomes a hard no on the very first "it's not X, it's Y".
  • stillpointlab 1 hour ago
    One thing people go through as they age is an elevation of cynicism and general misanthropy. After decades of being disappointed when naive idealism and speculative optimism fail, one can just get down on it all.

    It is really hard not to succumb to this. It requires active effort and sometimes even a willful ignorance. "turn a blind eye" is the idiom here. Monty Python's "Always look on the bright side of life" kind of thing.

    Mr Rogers said it: look for the helpers. They may be few, but they are there. Find them and focus on them.

    • hypfer 20 minutes ago
      I (self-servingly) don't think that cynicism is bad, nor that it would be a good idea to pathologize what is simply a healthy defense to a hostile reality.

      It depends on how you wield it.

      Cynicism shouldn't cloud your judgement. That's the actually correct point you wanted to make, I think.

      • stillpointlab 6 minutes ago
        I try not to think in black/white, good/evil kinds of terms. I think of forces and dynamic systems.

        There appears to be some force that promotes one particular way of thinking, perhaps the inevitable consequence of accumulated experiences. In the case of cynicism, the balance tends to shift towards one side of a scale over time.

        Without a countervailing force on the other side it can tip a normally balanced system out of stable equilibrium.

        My point is explicitly: the world provides the force in one direction, and the individual must provide the force in the other.

      • AlexB138 13 minutes ago
        I tend to agree. The quote "It is no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society" embodies it well.

        I don't think cynicism is the correct approach though. It's possible to accept that circumstances are unhealthy without internalizing general negativity. It's just hard. I suspect you and I, and OP, are all agreeing with each other on this point.

      • s1artibartfast 13 minutes ago
        Cynicism is a negatively biased view of the world. People should strive for accuracy. Sometimes accurate is also harsh, but that is different.

        Maybe this is the same thing you intended by saying it shouldn't Cloud your judgment.

        • jfengel 1 minute ago
          Cynicism is the assumption that your data reveal only part of the negative. Based on experience, the unknowns are probably more bad than good.

          It's like the assumption of friction. You may have no data on it, but you know it's almost certainly not zero outside of specific circumstances that are usually obvious.

          In the absence of data we have to estimate based on experience. My experience is that, in many domains, it is probably going to get worse.

        • hypfer 7 minutes ago
          Yeah, probably.

          It doesn't help that the clinical meaning and the colloquial meaning of the word are different, with the latter being used by people to hit you over the head with, pretending that it would be the former.

          • s1artibartfast 5 minutes ago
            What are the two?
            • hypfer 3 minutes ago
              > Cynicism is a negatively biased view of the world

              Is what you said. The clinical thing.

              > You're just being cynical

              Is cognitive dissonance forcing its way out of the mouths of people to shoot the messenger.

    • noir_lord 58 minutes ago
      I think that's why historical education is so important (or just liking history as in my case), looked through the lens of history all of the current shit as bad as it is, is really nothing all that new either, the only constant is change after all.

      As the aphorism goes: History may not repeat but it sure does rhyme.

      • AlexB138 8 minutes ago
        You're absolutely correct that history helps you see that none of this is new. However, is it better to be the person who sees the waterfall their boat is inevitably going to go over, or the person completely ignorant of it until it happens?
      • queenkjuul 6 minutes ago
        I would kinda be with you, except, climate change. And like, we didn't have nukes when the last world war started. This time we will.
      • watwut 35 minutes ago
        The knowledge that 1932 was kinda similar is not comforting at all. Or whatever run up to historical horrible events we talk about.

        I genuinely dont like what history sais follows after times like this.

    • dweekly 10 minutes ago
      The last thing my father said to me before he passed was to keep people looking forward to the future.

      It's easy to romanticize the past and it can seem intellectually sophisticated to despair about the future, when in fact the overwhelming evidence is that things have gotten much much better for nearly everyone on just about any objective axis you can pick.

      • inigyou 6 minutes ago
        Except they haven't.
    • api 52 minutes ago
      If you can’t help, it’s okay to look away.

      People sometimes get mad at this, like it’s callous or privileged, but what’s the difference between focusing on problems you can’t help and slowing down to stare at a car wreck?

      If you don’t slow down are you being insensitive?

      Obviously if you can help it’s different.

    • eventualcomp 58 minutes ago
      Thanks for commenting and acknowledging that it's challenging. My mates and myself have definitely fallen into this. Reminds me of that hackernews post about how doomerism is a siren's song for genZ, forget where it is.
    • s1artibartfast 16 minutes ago
      I think this growth in cynicism really depends on where people start from. A lot of people were taught and reinforced a inaccurate model of the world.

      When confronted with reality, it can't stand up and the individuals become angry and disengage rather than working with the system as it is.

      I know this is painting with a broad brush but I see it basically everywhere I look. One example would be the expectation of a benevolent Authority that manages political and social life. Reality is that it is just messy humans all the way down.

      Some people assume that from the beginning and can work with it. Other people just break down with frustration and broken expectations.

    • lofaszvanitt 9 minutes ago
      Good luck nurturing a garden, when every day someone tears down a tree inside or robs you of the fruits.
      • queenkjuul 4 minutes ago
        Or the summers get so hot it all burns down
  • GlibMonkeyDeath 9 minutes ago
    The thing is, the "old" internet is still out there. No one is stopping you from writing a futile blog (as I do.) Or using YouTube only for instruction for tasks around the house. Or learn about any topic imaginable. It's just that the bigger ecosystems have followed their incentives to their logical conclusion (hyper-addictive content to maximize earnings from ad sales.) Any new, "for the people" platform is going to face overwhelming pressure at some point to morph into the platforms we have today. It's just too profitable.

    The only way out is: don't to go to the casino in the first place. We need to tend our own [Voltarian](https://www.openculture.com/2020/09/what-voltaire-meant-when...) gardens.

  • linster 48 minutes ago
    Ok article, and has similar points to “You should quit Reddit” (which was a pretty good book).

    About 2/3 in, the sentences got choppier and shorter, and you could tell some context rot was setting in.

    • dominick-cc 20 minutes ago
      I did not pick up on this being ai generated. I guess this was the first time I am realizing I can no longer tell, and it doesn't feel good.
    • hitekker 4 minutes ago
      [flagged]
  • seydor 11 minutes ago
    In a previous generation, people would detect those technological snake oil sellers , call them out , even chase them. Because they could tell scammers from non-scammers.

    Now we have already 2-3 generations raised to consider scam practices to be the norm , and even to celebrate behavioral tricks and audience maximizing optimization at any cost (clickbait!).

    I cannot be convinced this is a normal thing. Over time, things revert to normal, but often in an explosive way.

    • flyingshelf 2 minutes ago
      Really. I think snake oil sellers were so popular because people believed them. It's no different today.

      Today you can recognize snake oil scams, most people can't. Nothing has changed.

      Millions of people still fall victims to pyramid schemes and that's not due to the internet.

  • karmakurtisaani 1 hour ago
    After reddit prevented browsing old.reddit.com without signing in, I got a lot more active on lemmy. There's some amount of old internet feeling there, you don't get exhausted by the amount of material and it's not overrun by corporations. So far it's been nice.
    • TFNA 45 minutes ago
      What killed Reddit wasn't just its corporate chase for profit. It was also the fact that the general public's default internet device shifted to the smartphone and its limited keyboard and screen, no longer the computer. That led to comments largely being reduced to 140-character quips, no longer substantial discussion.

      I am skeptical any non-corporate replacement like Lemmy can bring the old internet feeling back, because even on those alternative platforms, you just won't get many people using computers again.

      • shostack 39 minutes ago
        It also was because it became a target to influence and manipulate people both by every day scammers and marketers as well as nation state level actors.
        • TFNA 37 minutes ago
          Sure, but that didn't hit a lot of small hobby subreddits until recently. But the discussion culture there had already declined starting a decade ago, and it was ordinary subreddit denizens and their phones to blame, not bots or geopolitical intrigues.
      • Yhippa 33 minutes ago
        Reddit ended up gamifying for engagement/rage-bait instead of natural, authentic discussion.
        • inigyou 3 minutes ago
          Every platform with votes does that. Including HN. A community's feeling is largely determined by its sorting algorithm, and voting selects for engagement/ragebait.
        • snapetom 29 minutes ago
          Just a hunch, but I think Aaron Swartz would be disappointed.

          (Then you bring up Aaron Swartz and Obama's DOJ on reddit and it's massive downvotes calling you a MAGA nazi blah blah blah.)

    • haunter 37 minutes ago
      I follow reddit through RSS, at least that still works but probably that would be the final nail in the coffin for me. There are some really good subs out there and there is no replacements of those on the open internet. Maybe on Discord but I don't really like to use to that for anything else besides voice chat.
  • speak_plainly 1 hour ago
    This also seems to be spilling into the real world. Because of this internet addiction, it’s almost guaranteed that everyone has a relatively expensive computer in their pocket. This has turned into an increasing number of real-world scams, as well as supporting trafficking networks for stealing phones. The scams range from old school pickpocketers to sympathy schemes to full out phone-related accusations – anything to get you to take your phone out of your pocket, potentially unlock it, and have someone swipe it.

    If it’s unlocked, they may do some further scams from what’s available on the device, but either way, within days, your phone is somewhere in Asia, disassembled, and sold for scrap and parts.

  • mglvsky 52 minutes ago
    A good quote: "Sell people a worldview, and they will advertise it for free because criticism of the product now feels like criticism of the self"
  • tolerance 34 minutes ago
    Economic exploitation is just one way to take advantage of people who lack internal contentment. The other forms are cultural and social.

    Modifying one element in this environment in favor of others won't make things better. You could even argue that less people are being financially scammed online than they are cognitively.

    These problems are not endemic to the internet. But the internet does cast a broader net and provide a wider variety of ways for people to become afflicted by whatever it is I'm trying to describe.

  • thegrim33 8 minutes ago
    The root cause underlying all of that is the simple fact that the average person just isn't intelligent enough. They fall for the grift, they fall for the advertising, for the manipulation, the propaganda, the echo chambers, the emotion, the hate, they fall for it all. They're either unable to see it or escape it or both.

    With the internet connecting everyone together, giving you direct, immediate, access to billions of people from the comfort of your own home, of course there's going to be classes of people working to siphon money (or power) from the unintelligent into their own pockets, rather than doing the hard work of actually producing value for their civilization.

    There's also no real solution to this.

    Of course, educating people is a solution, somehow getting people to be more intelligent. But that's a slow, long, process, and the more I see, the more I realize just how commonly intelligent people still fall prey to the same things.

    The only other solution I see is blocking access for the majority for either consuming information from or contributing information to the internet, which is a hard pill to swallow, and which has its own horrible, and mostly unsolvable issues.

  • shuwix 1 hour ago
    Internet didn't change, it's population did. It's 8 billion potential victims and all bit more sophisticated thieves under one roof.

    Can't blame Internet. People which were scammed "offline" are now scammed online.

    • dumberquestions 1 hour ago
      The internet is the people using it, if many of its users have come up with more effective ways to exploit the rest than the internet has become a worse place.
      • pixl97 28 minutes ago
        The internet is an ecosystem just like any other one on earth. Being it's a pretty new one the typical parasites and viruses that grow in every environment hadn't really developed to fill that ecosystem in the first decade or two of it. Now we are reaching the cambrian explosion of bullshit that the human animal isn't innoculated against.

        So yea, the internet is a worse place, but really because the early internet wasn't realistically behaved for the amount of free energy it left around.

        • inigyou 2 minutes ago
          You know, we could just put those people in jail if we wanted to. At least when they're traceable - like everyone who uses a phone number or an IP address. They actually do this in Europe,.as a result there aren't many spam calls originating from European numbers.
    • grumbel 1 hour ago
      Internet deserves some blame too, when you have 8 billion people, but only 4 billion addresses, you are naturally going to end up with a lot of centralized services to work around those limits.
      • api 11 minutes ago
        You’re right but it’s a point I’ve tried to make for years to no avail.

        The V4 limit is one thing that does this. The other is DNS, which is inherently hierarchical because it’s a tree. The whole structure of the net and the web promotes the emergence of aggregation points, which then amass insane amounts of largely unearned power and influence through sheer network effect.

        “The medium is the message” is a much deeper statement than people think. The structure of the medium and the sympathetic structures it encourages to form around it are the message. IPv4 with NAT and DNS with its real estate model directly encourage the formation of aggregators and siloes and that’s where it starts.

        People don’t get it. I’ve given up trying to explain. Systems thinking isn’t as titillating as conspiracism, doomerism, or misanthropic cynicism I guess.

        • inigyou 1 minute ago
          We desperately need to replace ICANN.
  • acd 36 minutes ago
    People should know more about data fusion. How browser javascript fingerprints and unique personal id of the adtech works. Hint it traveres VPNs. The seven has an id of you

    Check your id https://amiunique.org/

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Data_fusion

    • BoxwoodSeed 15 minutes ago
      I'm using an addon that just changes my unique fingerprint every ten minutes. Not sure if that helps or not.
  • Glyptodon 55 minutes ago
    So I think there is an oversight in this essay, and it's that society becoming predatory is much bigger than the Internet: it is the story of the decay of America, reflected and exacerbated by the internet, as it becomes a anti-democratic huckster society dominated by grifters, theocrats, and snake-oil sellers.

    Forget the internet, you can't get your home repaired, your car worked on, an appliance purchased, shop for food, or do anything else without wading through a corrupt morass of that mixes woo, subcultures, grift, and subscriptions. Maybe it's the hospital that wants to charge a $25 a day fee to make the hospital room TV grant access to basic cable channels instead of nothing. Maybe it's the elementary school district that mandates every physical interaction between students is called in to the police - like little Jenny shoved Johnny who skinned his knee because he teased her, call the cops, it's policy. Or the way that every customer service interaction is routed through endless AIs because it's cheaper than solving a problem. Or how it seems like nobody will do right by anyone else until lawyers get involved. Cut taxes year after year, while everything decays, we fail the younger generations, and everyone thinks you fake it till you make it because it's all zero sum... It's how America heads straight to banana republic, and it might be too late to turn.

  • gizajob 37 minutes ago
    There’s also a bad side.
  • aktenlage 1 hour ago
    This so exaggerated. If you think some of the people you know are assholes, that's fine. If you think all of them are assholes, you are either choosing the wrong places to be, or (more likely) the problem is with you.
    • thot_experiment 1 hour ago
      It's written in a hyperbolic way, but I don't think your characterization is right. The author isn't saying everyone is an asshole, he's saying the systemic forces are mostly aligned in a predatory direction, and that part is absolutely true. I have a good time on Instagram despite the ways the platform is structured.
      • aktenlage 3 minutes ago
        Good point on the systemic forces. Yet I feel your second point falls broadly in with what I meant with "choosing the right places". E.g., I also use YouTube, but don't watch shorts, avoid clickbait, ragebait, etc, and filter ads. That makes the place OK for me. But as you say, it's then ok despite the structure of the platform.
    • oh_my_goodness 1 hour ago
      >This so exaggerated

      No, it's just what's happening online.

      >If you think some of the people you know are assholes, that's fine. If you think all of them are assholes,

      Wrong thread? Doesn't seem to correspond to anything in the article.

      • aktenlage 11 minutes ago
        "Online" is not one place. And what the author is complaining about is not happening in the places I spend 99% of my online time on.

        That's just the saying as I know it. Regarding the post it would be along the lines of "if you think everyone is a predator/grifter/scammer, it may be a problem with you or the places you roam"

    • pixl97 24 minutes ago
      There are two competing ways of looking at this.

      1. If everyone you know is an asshole about some particular thing, then you're probably the asshole. Think politics or design.

      2. Everybody is an asshole some of the time for some reason. Because the internet connects and exposes us to so many people that even if someone only acts like an asshole very rarely said connectivity and algorithm boosting ensures you get exposed to it.

    • Glyptodon 52 minutes ago
      I don't think everyone is an asshole exactly but something is wrong with more and more people and you see it everything from how people drive to the degree to which so many things seem more adversarial or feel like part time jobs.
  • mrkeen 7 minutes ago
    Good writing includes some examples or statistics.

    The ratio of grifters to non-grifters could have halved or risen tenfold in the last few decades. How would we know?

    What percentage of the population "now appears willing to devote every waking hour to fleecing their fellow man as a career choice?"

    How "many online grifters are themselves marks"?

  • a-dub 31 minutes ago
    the internet is home to plenty of predatory cesspits, but the real stuff is still there too. it's not as convenient or addicting as content that doubles as a funnel for the ad machines, but the real spaces and media that aren't dominated by the advertising industrial complex still exist- just like in other forms of media that preceded the internet.
  • egonschiele 42 minutes ago
    I love Stephen's writing, and this is so well written.

    > I was very wrong. The grift economy is massive. More disturbing still, it is participatory. A large and growing share of the population now appears willing to devote every waking hour to fleecing their fellow man as a career choice.

    I find myself worrying about this a lot. For what it's worth though, the non-grifters, the people interested in building a community, are still out there. To find them, you need to look for groups that add no financial value – join an art club, volunteer locally. When I spend time with those groups, I'm reminded that not everyone's a grifter in real life.

    Also, this explorable by Nicky Case is evergreen: https://ncase.me/trust/

  • daoboy 1 hour ago
    We're evolutionarily programmed to stop everything and focus on anything that elicits fear in our environment. Enormous amounts of money has been invested to design algorithms that capture our attention with fear because they need your attention to sell advertising. Everything's optimized to make you enraged and afraid because it works. They're really good at it too.

    I know they got my number. I've had to delete every social media site I used to be engaged in (I suppose except this one) for the sake of my mental health.

  • operatingthetan 1 hour ago
    My feeling is that the current state of the internet is just exposing how humans behave normally, the guardrails have just fallen away. Everyone is immune to shame, the threat of consequences etc. You see this in real life on the streets too.
    • teekert 1 hour ago
      I think the opposite. The vast majority of kind and gently people are suddenly observing a small but ultra loud obnoxious minority take the stage and burn resources like nothing else to get maximum attention. Attention wins and you don’t get it by being gentle, balanced, kind and most importantly, don’t care about maximum attention.
      • gilleain 1 hour ago
        There is the saying "the empty vessel makes the loudest noise". This was part of the reason I eventually left Reddit, as I was getting sucked in to the habit of making empty meme-like responses to posts.

        Some of the worst places for comments I've seen are on youtube - just the lowest effort ("who is listening to this in 2026?!") or the most obnoxious, or just misunderstood. Partly this is because of voting systems combined with large numbers of people. Partly because of bots I suppose.

        • teekert 55 minutes ago
          I watched the announcement on the detection on gravitational waves on YT. The comments scrolling by were like from another world, I even made some screenshots, insane, obnoxious. Could be bots I suppose, I hear from political commentators here who advocate for thoughtful commentary "from the middle", that their social media posts are always very quickly flooded by the same kind of polarizing low-level comments that drown out any intellectual and thoughtful debate. It's probably partly bots, partly a small minority of people that get sucked into it by the bots. I have no problem believing this is Russia, or NK, undermining our democracy in a fully automated fashion.
      • operatingthetan 1 hour ago
        I hope you are right
      • bakugo 1 hour ago
        This is the right takeaway. Before the internet went mainstream, these ultra loud and obnoxious minorities were restricted to being obnoxious within their local communities, and their speech was restricted to what they were willing to say to others face-to-face.

        Now, both of those restrictions have been lifted: they can now act obnoxious in front of a global audience that will be forced to listen to them, and they no longer have to worry about the potential consequences of being obnoxious in person.

      • abixb 1 hour ago
        Yes. I remember reading a piece on /r/SlateStarCodex subreddit many years that said something like, "Most of what you read on the internet is written by insane people," and that had an impact on me. In fact, many articles by Scott Alexander had an impact on me, though I don't know what he's up to these days.

        Okay, found it -- https://www.reddit.com/r/slatestarcodex/comments/9rvroo/most...

        Edit: It was written in October 2018 -- 8 years ago. Feels centuries ago, to be frank. We're moving at absolute breakneck speed in tech.

        • ieie3366 58 minutes ago
          I'd say at least 1/3 of internet commenters clearly have GAD (generalized anxiety disorder). Most of them undiagnosed. Anxiety triggers ancient animalistic parts of the brain and the "need to do something NOW" which often then gets released into negative / angry / aggressive posts.

          Depressed people are the opposite, they tend to lurk and not care that much

          I remember back in the "old" internet pre-2010, there was basically zero anxious people posting.

          • qsera 15 minutes ago
            I blame A/B testing.

            Fear and anxiety sells best (even better than Sex). When you end up selecting procedures that ensures the maximum sales/clicks, you are actually optimizing for things that cause maximum fear and anxiety?

        • well_ackshually 1 hour ago
          And the SlateStarCodex people are also, for the vast majority, batshit insane people behind a veil of "no but you see i'm a rationalist". That includes Scotty.
      • lifeisstillgood 1 hour ago
        Thank you
        • teekert 1 hour ago
          Yeah, I just came back from traveling a couple of weeks, and I have had such wonderful experiences with people. There were times where I just wanted to hug a taxi cab driver (ie when a Grab driver was holding an umbrella over my vomiting daughter [car sickness] and me, with his car stopped by at the side of a highway... etc.)
    • nswizzle31 1 hour ago
      I came to comment the exact opposite. People are good, caring, kind, helpful, thoughtful, funny, interesting. It’s visible every day in real life beyond the streets… in both small and big interactions.

      When you choose to see beyond the surface, it becomes clear this is the cause of a system. A system that is nearly impossible to escape, and which will last for the rest of our lives. But still a system, and not the people participating.

    • HPsquared 1 hour ago
      The internet has a big "dogs barking at each other through the closed gate" dynamic. People are much more rude and aggressive to each other from a safe distance.
    • Avicebron 1 hour ago
      I think it's actually inverted, the sudden arrival of this new information layer is bringing out the worst in people as they try to suddenly adapt to this new social environment. Even worse, is that it works(ed) and now the behavior is influencing real life.
    • NoboruWataya 58 minutes ago
      Well, the guardrails, by which I assume you mean legal and social accountability, were the norm for most of human history, which is why I don't consider the behaviour of anonymous and unaccountable humans on the internet to be "normal". Of course, humans are capable of great evil, but we are also pretty good at building social structures to prevent the worst of it. But those structures don't work so well on the anonymous internet.

      > You see this in real life on the streets too.

      To nowhere near the same extent, in my experience. Most people in real life are still fairly polite, even to strangers. It's insane to me how rude people can be on social media. Some of the aggressive responses I've received on Reddit (to fairly innocuous comments) I would never in a million years get in real life. (And this is also true of the 90s internet.)

    • GuB-42 34 minutes ago
      This is how humans behave under anonymity, towards an anonymous crowd of people. It is something you don't see on the streets with the exception of a few assholes, but you see it a bit more on the road, where being in a vehicle puts some distance.

      It is not a lack of shame and the treat of consequences. Take soldiers for instance, instinctively, they don't want the enemy they face dead, it takes a lot of conditioning to have them kill without hesitation and it often results in mental health issues later. And solders are rewarded for killing the enemy, it means the shame and threat of consequences go the other way. Normal people just don't want to hurt others.

      But the more detached we become from the actual person, the easier it is to be an asshole. This is what happens on the internet where people are just entries in a database, at best a name and an avatar.

    • Shuang1 54 minutes ago
      I actually think the opposite, the hatred on the internet seems artificial to me.

      In the current day when AI is so prevalent, it always makes me wonder how many posts are made by agents instructed to maximize engagement by making people angry.

    • yoyohello13 1 hour ago
      Sort of the paradox of humanity. I actually like the majority of people I meet in person. But ‘humanity’ in the aggregate is just fucking terrible and constantly finds new and interesting ways to lower my expectations further.
    • bryanrasmussen 1 hour ago
      so normal human behavior is immune to shame and consequences?
  • anonymousiam 8 minutes ago
    "Usenet is a cesspool, a dung heap" -- Patrick A. Townson -- published in May 1994 in The UNIX-Hater's Handbook.
  • varispeed 10 minutes ago
    I think part of it is due to corrupt government regulating internet as if only Facebooks and Reddits were on the market. It destroyed niche forums and made the place less democratised. Today you cannot just rent a server and start a forum without massive financial backing and therapist on speed dial.
  • aureate 44 minutes ago
    This reads to as pure AI slop to me, and Pangram agrees (100% AI).

    To use one of the idioms that give this impression, this is not just knee-jerk whining. It's material to what the article is about. If you're going to raise this topic, be a human and say something constructive. An AI generated ragebait whinge about ragebait is ragebait squared with a heaped serving of hypocrisy on top. This exemplifies everything it complains about.

    • A_D_E_P_T 28 minutes ago
      Yes. "High confidence." I confirmed it myself:

      > https://i.ibb.co/m5tPKPYS/Screenshot2026829-1.png

      But forget Pangram. This passage, from the conclusion, is 100% rock-solid proof that Claude was a key contributor.

      > "The question is not whether the internet contains useful things. It does. The question is whether human existence should be organised around alien and inhuman objective functions no human chose and nobody can inspect or understand."

      Also, I think that "grift" (repeated throughout the article) is very poorly defined. I also think that most cryptocurrencies are, in the general case, a bad example of a "grift."

      • chrisjj 25 minutes ago
        • A_D_E_P_T 6 minutes ago
          But this guy's talking about drop-shippers, life coaches, cryptocurrency, online "influencing" in general, and other things. Very few of those fit your own definition, as there's nothing illicit involved.

          In some cases, e.g. if you compare cryptocurrency to drop-shipping, there's not even much common ground, except "markets things through social media."

  • zahlman 33 minutes ago
    It's interesting to me how complaints about widespread Internet political propaganda and "grifting" so consistently reveal the author's own political biases. It's really hard to write about it in a detached way.

    (It's strange to see people accuse others of grifting but then continue to engage with the arguments made in that "grift" as though the other party sincerely believed the claims. In my experience, the claims usually probably are made sincerely, and the "grifting" terminology is used because the accuser can't accept that the other worldview exists, or else just as a generic boo word.)

  • lilerjee 55 minutes ago
    > Crypto has become the subject of my verbal ire so often because it is the apotheosis of the grift economy.

    AI is replacing Crypto on the topic in some sense.

  • tamimio 1 hour ago
    What ruined the internet is monetized social media, regardless ad driven or direct monetization. Monetization will basically ruin anything meant to be fun, even a simple board game with friends and family, if it stopped being about spending quality time and having fun and now there’s a competition of how much will each make at the end, it won’t be fun, you will see tribalism, manipulation, cheating, and other shenanigans.
    • swed420 1 hour ago
      > What ruined the internet is monetized social media, regardless ad driven or direct monetization

      Agreed, and the first step ought to be a push for demonetized / citizen-owned platforms:

      https://www.noemamag.com/the-last-days-of-social-media/

      Note, however, that even with achieving this first step, we'll still have a platform full of profit-motivated actors, because our economies incentivize this behavior whether online or IRL.

      Both problems need solving, but the first one is easier, and demonstrating its solution on a large scale could help convince everyone that it's an endeavor worth applying to all domains.

  • spacedcowboy 8 minutes ago
    This is a little premature - I'm about a month away from a really good launch date, but the sentiment here is too good a match to miss...

    A long time ago, when dinosaurs roamed the Earth, I set up my first webserver. In those halcyon days you had to email CERN to get your website added to the list of websites in the world; a list people downloaded as the sum total of what the web was and where they could visit.

    Things have come a long way since then, but maybe not always for the better. The ad-companies have wormed their way into just about everything on the web, and the tech billionaires have funded it because they can make even more money at the general public's expense.

    I recently got very fed up with Reddit's anti-user policies, and decided 'screw it, there's not that much special here'. As a result, Blewit[1] came into existence: it's an experiment - can an old-style just-for-the-good-of-the-community-it-represents website still function in today's modern world? We'll see...

    Blewit takes no user information other than a username/password. We're forced to accept cloudflare's country-code so we can be compliant with the Online Safety Act, but we deliberately don't even ask for an email address.

    We don't track. We don't have ads that are other ways to track. We don't have algorithms that force engagement along the most-outrageous pathway. We don't have analytics to sell you stuff. We don't put tracking pixels in our site, and when you upload an image, we strip it of all the EXIF/Location data so it can't be used to track you by proxy.

    More bluntly, all the dark patterns are missing. By design. It hearkens back to a simpler time, where people did things simply because they thought it was cool, and others might like it too.

    So it'll be interesting to see if something like Reddit (I think it's better, but I'm biased) can survive in the far-more-predatory world that we live in, than when I first started using the web. The site is deliberately lean-and-mean, and I think I can give it the on-ramp it needs to become successful if it gets the engagement of sufficient people. Again, I guess we'll see :)

    Enjoy.

    1: https://blewit.uk/

  • simonw 58 minutes ago
    If you don't know the song Welcome to the Internet by Bo Burnham, allow me to introduce you to it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k1BneeJTDcU

    (Heck of a karakoe number if you can pull it off.)

  • queenkjuul 21 minutes ago
    "Kind of" feels like the understatement of the century
  • ok123456 1 hour ago
    Hell is other people.
  • dzink 51 minutes ago
    Part 1: Everything was turned into social User Generated Content to reduce editorial costs. Part 2: Predatory third parties ranging from nation states to SEO agencies started mass filling UGC with anxiety inducing brain rot. Part 3: the brainrot generation is automated by AI and it silences any real people or voices. Part 4: People go outside to touch grass and Part 5: That leaves opportunities for platforms for real people with good culture
  • demritocracy 1 hour ago
    I saw a video of a doctor answering a call and the caller started saying some strange hate/concensus-pushing message about Jews hating people who hate Jews in a very angry tone. Neither the doctor nor the commenters suggested it was AI, but it certainly sounded like it. I got a flash of a future where every telemarketer call is either an angry voice ready to convince you of something, or the gender you like trying to woo you.

    How discouraging would it be (intentionally) if every time an AI had access to your attention, it was trying to make you angry. This would probably cause a lot of people to disengage, a lot to get angry, and a few able to live without being affected by the laser guided anger and manipulation

  • RobRivera 30 minutes ago
    The internet

    Is

    For porn

  • trudler 59 minutes ago
    tl;dr: The internet is the thing that needs the most attention when educating your kids.

    I get a lot of value from the internet. I fell for some traps (instagram, facebook with very little value but lots of wasted energy) that I mostly got rid of.

    But I have many products I am very happy about, that I got to know through other people on the internet.

  • chasd00 1 hour ago
    Heh “predatory cesspit”. Ironically, the internet is kind of returning to its roots in this respect.
  • stephbook 45 minutes ago
    AI slop (like the article) makes it a worse place.
    • Seattle3503 26 minutes ago
      I ran this article through through Pangram and it says the text is AI written
  • micromacrofoot 1 hour ago
    Everything is kind of a predatory cesspit now
  • analog8374 1 hour ago
    maybe the physical world is the moderator of the dream world (internet). In the absence of the physical world the dream world runs rampant.

    with no empirical reference, truth becomes a matter of popularity or the loudest argument.

    with no space, everybody lives next door to a thousand assholes.

  • OgsyedIE 1 hour ago
    Half the comments here, for instance.
  • bryan_w 1 hour ago
    If you go to doomer places on the internet (this thread included), you will see the internet as doomed
  • CommenterPerson 48 minutes ago
    Sadly, one of the contributors to this are the "Little" Tech Bros. They have drunk the kool aid at work. A bit libertarian or right wing in nature, they salivate at the latest Full Self Driving (supervised) lie, or AI hype, or crypto when it first came out. In their view, any attempt to regulate or draw boundaries around "tech" equates to communism marxism, and attempts to curtail so called freedom of speech. Don't use it if you don't like it, they say.

    By Little Tech Bros i mean developers with lots of technical skills, but who haven't been lucky enough to be in the right spot at the right time. They keep evangelizing thinking lightning will hit them the next time. It won't. More likely, a layoff notice. Because Big Tech Bro figured out how to grab all the money from your excess productivity.

  • analog8374 1 hour ago
    A billion hungry discorporate souls, roaming a vast non-space, looking to feed their hunger, looking to eat each other. Some call that hell.
  • jdkee 14 minutes ago
    AI slop.
  • tristanj 1 hour ago
    Well duh, was this not expected? The Internet userbase has transitioned dramatically over the past several decades.

    It moved from an outpost for computer nerds in the early 1990s, to a middle-class product in the 2000s, then everybody got access in the 2010s with the spread of the smartphone.

    The demographics of the internet look nothing like they did when it was created.

    • dumberquestions 55 minutes ago
      The tools, business models have changed just as much as the demographics if not more.
    • EA-3167 49 minutes ago
      That’s why you’re seeing stratification reemerge imo. Paywalls are probably the most obvious feature of this, where information worth accessing these days tends to be paywalled. By contrast high volume, low quality slop supported by ads is generally free.
  • sicktriple 1 hour ago
    You could replace nearly every instance of "the Internet" in this article with "capitalism" and it would make perfect sense.
    • qsera 20 minutes ago
      Yea, It seems that the author is just waking up to the reality, and mistakenly thinks it's all the fault of some new fangled thing...

      quite frankly iam14andthisisdeep material

  • skybrian 1 hour ago
    I don't doubt that there are very large communities of grifters, but to say that they are "the Internet" seems a bit much. If you see grifting as the central core of the Internet, maybe that's a problem with your filter bubble. You need to filter that stuff out.
  • teh_infallible 24 minutes ago
    This post is one long strawman argument.
  • SirFatty 1 hour ago
    Now, for the last 20 years.
  • convolutedsoup 46 minutes ago
    Literally 100% AI generated slop, disappointing
  • carabiner 1 hour ago
    Everything on the Internet is designed to enrage or sexually arouse you as quickly as possible, including this article.
  • juleiie 1 hour ago
    I have only one agenda - my own. People hate that I think nowadays.

    You need to be in some kind of camp, even for something so minor as skincare brand or fanfiction.

    I think that it was fine until the internet started to influence the real life way too much. You used to be able to log out and gain distance to the bullshit on the web.

    Now the bullshit has permeated into the mainstream and you need very drastic measures and personality to reject it.

    You will lose some people for this but there are still some older folks that can talk about anything and will never get offended. Never conform but also don't become a contrarian for the sake of it.

    The modern life is an art how to stay weird in a world that wants to squash you into some kind of label. How to stay genuine

    It starts during simple social interactions in real life. You make a joke about alcohol, now you feel the pressure of the crowd to become 'the funny drunk'. Squash it as soon as possible now you are a teetotaler. Now tell them joke about drugs. Make it all too confusing at all so they lose any idea about what to make of you. Obfuscation. Now you are free in the purest sense. There is no template for you aside from the one you craft or discover for yourself.

    I even went further and made myself genderless so that these norms cannot easily qualify me into anything really. There is 50% chance if someone calls me a woman or a man.

    Sometimes I support the feminism. Sometimes I give myself to patriarchy and observe how that feels.

    Maybe I made it all up and nothing I wrote is genuine.

    We should strive to be stranger or at least do not treat it as something bad but as a virtue. Of course do not try hard but just explore the weird and see where it takes you.

  • catlover76 1 hour ago
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  • grackasthebig 1 hour ago
    So ...it's the same social dumpster fire humanity has always been?

    Cast aside the syntax and semantics of religion for financially engineered beliefs; buy low, sell high or you'll be "left behind!"

    Small step forward from "believe in my take on Christianity or your soul will be eternally damned!"

    Mirror neurons fostering same flock building via corps people used to build via scripture.

    Just more lazy people who want zero responsibility to themselves and everyone else to have responsibility for them.

  • kayo_20211030 43 minutes ago
    I've seen this same discussion in a million guises.

    This particular essay starts with

    > I’m a kid of the 90s, and I still remember the early internet.

    ... and then contains a lot of predictable stuff about how and why avalon became: tarnished, effete, weak, tawdry, despoiled, no-fun, toxic, predatory, rapacious etc. You can take your pick, it doesn't matter. It's the same argument no matter which adjective you choose.

    It finally gets to

    > The question is not whether the internet contains useful things. It does.

    That's a truism of no value.

    Take the whole essay, replace "internet" with a country's name and amend some of the details. You've seen it before? You read it every damned day in every form of media. It's used to justify just about anything; the good and the bad. In the end it's a boring, repetitive argument.

    At the edge, it reduces to: my country used to be great and now it's crap because it's not how it used to be - so, we need to roll everything back despite the number of years that have passed between then and now, and despite any of the positive things that may have come during that time.